Kate is having accidents.

And I don’t just mean of the bruise-her-up variety. Although, seriously, the way that child runs face first into things, it’s a wonder CYS hasn’t come a-calling.

She is peeing in her pants. She is pooping in her pants at daycare.

I haven’t the faintest idea what to do.

And my short fuse and fatigue are not lending themselves to cool-headed reactions to my daughter standing in the kitchen and peeing in her shorts right in front of me, ten minutes after I asked her if she needed to go to the potty.

As you can probably imagine.

Dan seems to be dealing with the issue much, much better than I. On Sunday, after Kate peed in the kitchen (hey, at least it was on linoleum), I walked out of the room crying (I’m so level-headed this pregnancy!), and Dan calmly took Kate upstairs, got her cleaned up, talked to her about peeing her pants, told her she would not be able to get a fish (our prize for good behavior in general, lately), and had her apologize to me. In the meantime, I mopped up the kitchen floor. Inwardly seething.

This all started a few weeks back. When she complained about her bum itching and her poop hurting we put her back on Miralax. That seemed to help — at least she wasn’t resisting the urge to poop anymore.

I don’t know the circumstances regarding her accidents at daycare, if she’s refusing or declining to use the potty (as she is at home); if she’s just so occupied with playing she is ignoring her need to go; if there’s a fundamental step between learning to go on the potty and actually stopping what you are doing to USE the potty that Kate’s just not grasping yet.

Ideas? Advice? Whether for Kate or for me (to keep my cool). All is welcome.

Edited to add: She has the ladies at daycare flummoxed too. She was doing so well! She’s going to get sent back down to the minors (i.e. the Baby Room) to see if that will motivate her to success again.

I suspect: change in routine — my schedule has been all over the place lately; attention-seeking behavior (duh); the fact that she is put out by my continuing fatigue and other pregnancy-related difficulties that make me a more absent momma. But I still don’t know what to do.

6 thoughts on “Regression

  1. That used to happen to me when I’d get too busy to go. But then my boss gave me a good talking to because the other employees were complaining, so I just about have the problem licked.

    Sorry, RPM. Since I don’t have anything constructive, I thought I’d just try to make you laugh.

    • Well, it worked, I did laugh. Albeit ruefully. If only I could send Kate’s boss in! Except it’s me, and she’s not responding. I’m going to dock her pay!

  2. oh I KNOW. Maggie went through this just a few weeks ago. The one difference was she was fine at school, but at home, seriously EVERY DAY for a week or more she peed right next to the toilet 3 times a day, at least. It was infuriating. She was also refusing to ‘go and try’ when I asked her… and not 2 minutes later, there comes the pee all over the floor.

    I never did figure out the problem or a solution, she just kind of… got out of it. I nearly lost my mind through it, because she had been doing SO great for so many weeks! The good news is, since that bad phase, she’s been doing excellent (still not diaper-free in public or at night, but I’ll take at home, people’s houses, and daycare for now!)

    My advice: go on vacation alone, maybe when you get back, she’ll be potty trained 😉 (kidding. kind of. GOOD LUCK!!!)

    • HA! Wouldn’t I just love to be on vacation?

      What’s disheartening is that demoting her to the Baby Room at daycare or taking privileges away at home doesn’t seem to faze her right now. In the meantime, I feel like the top of my head is going to blow off in anger!

      They are putting her back in pull-ups at daycare, but I am letting her run around commando at home. I figure it’ll feel too weird to “go” with nothing to catch it. And I put her on the potty two or three times in the evenings without comment. I just hope she figures it out again, soon!

  3. Here is what I recommend, with the caveat that it is really difficult…let her figure it out. My older daughter was like this. She still is when it comes to Control. I figure that I can spend the next 15 minutes making us both miserable by asking every 5 sec if she needs to go; or I can get the recycling sorted and out to the curb. The same end result will be pee on the rug. But in one scenerio the recycling is done and in the other it is not. When the end game is sanity, productivity goes a long way, I find! Stay healthy, RPM!

    • I know. I know. Being a bit of a control freak myself, that is the hardest thing, to let her figure it out on her own. More deep breathing for me!

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