Two Steps Forward, and the Status Quo

Last night as I was getting Bun ready to take her bath, she looked me in the face and said, “I have to go pee.”

So we walked into the bathroom, and — after I stopped her from putting her hands in the toilet — got her properly situated, and she peed on the potty.

I was so proud of her. Not least of all because, frankly, I haven’t made a damn move on the potty training front with Bun. I do not have a clue how I am supposed to potty train a child while I am at work full time. I suspect it may involve a very intense weekend in the house, with Bun’s bum on the pot every half an hour.

Which I understand can be effective, but it sounds like terribly high-pressure situation for a 2-and-a-half-year-old. Especially as using the potty is something I would like her to learn.

As a reward, I gave her a chocolate cookie (note to self: stock up on M&M’s). She seemed to grasp the importance of what she did. I am encouraged. But I still have no plans to go hard-core on this thing. It’s too nice outside!

Unfortunately, on the sleep front, Bun is still not doing well. The nightmares continue, and continue to disrupt sleep for the household. And by household, I mean me.

I thought a routine of ‘monster spray’ and prayers (“Now I lay me down to sleep…” and a litany of “God bless…”) would put the kibosh on the nightmares. This did seem to work — for about two days. But now we’re back to waking up, usually anywhere between 3 and 5 o’clock in the morning.

Last night was especially terrible. She was up screaming by 12:30 a.m. When I went to get her and tuck her into bed with me (DearDR fell asleep on the couch, that lucky bastard), I asked if anything hurt. She said no. I asked if she had a nightmare. She said yes. I asked what about? She said monsters. Trying to drill down a little further, I said, “What kind of monsters?” “Animal monsters,” she answered. I had nothing further to ask, and spent the rest of the night waking up with her toes digging into my back.

I’m of two minds. One mind says, “Let her watch Monsters, Inc.” The other one says, “Make bed time even quieter, don’t talk about monsters (i.e. use angel spray instead of monster spray), and tell Bun about all the good dreams she is going to have.” (This latter is at the suggestion of DearDR.)

What say you? Also, if you have any guidance on the potty training front for a WOTHM, I am all ears.

5 thoughts on “Two Steps Forward, and the Status Quo

  1. Telling the good dreams is one I’ve heard having some success.

    As for the potty training, yes, it’s too nice outside. Except for today. If it’s not raining yet, it will be.

  2. We finally put an end to wicked nightmares by making it part of our nightly routine to ask Alexis what happy things she is going to dream about that night. It’s hugely entertaining for us to hear her list, and it seems to have worked.

    • Oh, that sounds like a good idea. I’m going to try that tonight. I think I’m going to stop the Monster spray, too. I think it reinforces the idea that there are actually monsters.



  3. excellent advice from burgh baby. there actually is some benefit to thinking about happy thoughts and planning your dreams — OR planning a response for yourself to make while you’re dreaming.

    i actually did that with a recurring nightmare about the return of my deceased husband, at the urging of a friend. i consciously planned to ask him what he wanted the next time he “showed up” in my dreams.

    it worked.

  4. re: potty training, I took a long weekend with ABoy (thurs, fri, sat, sun) and that did get the ball rolling. We went on the potty every 30 min, but he was nearly 4 years old by then. It was NOT fun, but it worked, with a lot of help from day care providers. I would let all day care folks know ahead of time when you are planning the big event, and get their buy-in re: reinforcers, talking it up, etc. I don’t know if Bun is into clothes, would be motivated by pretty big girl pants, etc. (Aboy could care less…m&m’s worked for him, and playing his Leapster on the potty!)

    Hope this helps! miss you much!

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